Dog-sitting and Shoes
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I was driving to work yesterday and my mind was wandering (that’s not as dangerous as it sounds) when I had an “aha” moment. I had spent the previous afternoon shopping with my daughter (she’s 12 going on 16), which had turned out to be quite pleasant (anyone who has ever shopped with a preteen girl knows that isn’t always the case). She had earned money from her dog-sitting job and she wanted to go buy a new dress. Now, clothes shopping can be a bit of an issue because I have conservative rules (by today’s standards) about what is appropriate and what is not for a young girl to wear.
I come from a pretty conservative cultural background, and though I have loosened up a lot, sometimes my daughter can’t see that. At times I can’t even explain why I say no to certain things, it’s just “there”. Lately she’s been pretty good about it though, I think she can see where I am trying and I am willing to discuss it and make some compromises when I can.
ANYWAY . . . one of the things she bought yesterday was shoes, actually the ones in the picture here. I knew her Dad wouldn’t be crazy about them (can you walk in those?), but they were on sale, they fit, and it was her money so I said yes.
It hit me on my morning drive that my mother had done exactly the same thing. I can’t remember her ever saying no to shoes or purses (unless they were too expensive). I think that’s why I love them, it was the one area of expression that had a wide range of “appropriateness”. It was very comforting to think of my mom like that. Last week marked the fourth anniversary of her death, and it was nice to realize I could still get advice from her.
Thanks Mom.
She will quietly influence you for the rest of your life.
And good for you for being a little conservative. When I see a young girl dressed like, well, like a hooker, I always wonder how her mother let her out of the house looking like that.
I don’t think girls can stray too far off the “appropriate” path with shoes. And those pictured in your blog look quite nice. Good call on your part. And I’m certain your mom, who is looking down from above, would concur.
I like those shoes. I must say, my mom let me make any clothes choice that I like, but I tend to dress quite conservatively. But maybe because of that freedom, I never really found my love for shoes.
I like them, but I have about four pairs that I wear all the time.