Mom
November 2007 |
Tomorrow is Mother’s Day. My mother-in-law is coming over for lunch after church and my husband is grilling steaks and asparagus and making baked potatoes. My kids will say “Happy Mother’s Day” and give me the hugs I love. We’ll enjoy time together and it will be fun.
Today the stores are filled with cards, flowers, candy, cute stuffed animals, mugs and lots of posters telling us to “remember Mom”. I do.
I have a wonderful mother-in-law. We have been friends for all of the 22 years we have been related. We do not consider our bond to be a legal one but a heart one. She truly is a mother to me.
My mom passed away almost three years ago. I find that I think about her more now than I did a year ago. After the initial shock of her death (which was one of those unexpected but not unexpected events), life settled back into a regular routine, helped by the fact we lived 600 miles apart.
As I sit here typing I am looking through my glass door at the bird feeder. It is surrounded by cardinals, blue jays, finches, and other birds I don’t know the names of. My mother loved having birds around, and I think of her when I see my bird feeder.
Many of you know I tore my ACL a month ago and am on crutches while my bone fractures heal. I have been remembering that when I was about 17 my mom tore the ligaments in her leg from hip to ankle and she was on crutches and in rehab. I can’t remember how long it took, and I can’t ask her. I can only imagine the frustration she felt at the experience – because I know my own level of frustration at the dependence on others.
It seems like the further I get from her passing, the closer she is to me. I do not find it sad, I find it comforting.
I hope you have a Happy Mother’s Day.
Sorry you can no longer share the day with your mother, but sounds like you have an awesome second mom.
Happy Mother's Day, Sheila!
Happy Mother's Day, Sheila! Enjoy the time with your mother in law.
Sad and happy for you at he same time. I feel for you with your leg injury. My wife had a knee replacement and the agony she went through with her rehab was painful to share. Have wonderful Mother's Day.
I grieve with you. You honor your Mom with the way you're bringing up your own children. I'm grateful that you became a Mom (so that I didn't have to..:)
Mom would be proud of you for stopping to think about her. I can promise you she loved you dearly Sheila. Mom always hid the pain from people but it was harder for her to do with me being only 6 miles from her. She never wanted it to affect you or our brothers lives. I can tell you this Sheila that even though you were far away physically, you were very close in her heart.